The bane of suspicion

The bane of suspicion

no trustOur mind is the most powerful tool and yet our weakest link too. It is true that our mind personifies our inner thoughts. Many a time, however, we may have felt that our mind has a mind of its own. There are situations when our subconscious mind starts to create a negative feeling and builds up on it and by the time it surfaces to our conscious mind, the negative thought would have already turned into a belief! One such highly treacherous thought is what we’re going to deal with today.  There are many people in this universe who suffer from this disorder that is proven to take away the peace and happiness of not only him but his entire family. I call this disorder ‘SUSPICION’. Suspicion has a cumulative effect on one’s body and mind. The moment even an atom of suspicion enters a person’s mind, he is headed for disaster because along with suspicion come anxiety, jealousy and fear.
There was once a happy couple who doted on each other with love and respect. The husband was a

police officer and was known for his good looks and well-maintained physique. Although it was these traits that made his wife fall in love with him, it was these same characteristics that slowly began to sow seeds of suspicion in her mind. She began suspecting that he was having an extramarital affair. Even a casual courtesy smile to a lady at the mall or the temple turned out to be a point of concern for her. Gradually, her behavior towards her husband changed. Whatever she did for her husband was based on her belief that he was having an affair. This led her to stop loving and respecting him as she felt he didn’t deserve it anymore. On the other hand, her loyal husband who began to notice the change in her behavior towards him enquired about it on different occasions but she never came out with it hoping to catch him red handed and then confront him. In the meantime, the relationship was getting strained further and further. However that time never came as her husband did no wrong and was not guilty. However she had already poisoned her mind with her thoughtless imaginations and ruined the once beautiful relationship.
We all have only one life; why complicate it? Suspecting an individual, be it a friend or a family member, can never be justified. This does not mean that you should blindly trust everyone. You are, by all means, permitted to have reservations about a certain person however it is wise to clarify your doubts at the nascent stage itself and nip it in the bud. Do not carry the burden of suspicion around until it’s too late to fix it. It’s only when you stop the process of suspecting and begin to analyze your concern from an outsider’s perspective that you’ll arrive at a logical solution. You have been bestowed with a beautiful life, spouse and children. Love them unconditionally and stay blessed!

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